by Naielah Ackbarali
When you ask the right questions BEFORE deciding to marry, it lessens the chance of having conflict and misunderstandings over certain issues AFTER marriage. Try these:
1. Who does the housework? Who pays the bills?
Ambiguity in roles and responsibilities can create issues. Avoid unnecessary conflict by talking about your views and making your expectations super clear. By agreeing on a framework, you will learn how to cooperate.
2. What did you like and dislike about your childhood?
Your childhood experiences usually mold your character and values. It is important that you understand your future spouse’s background and how that could potentially impact your relationship together.
3. How do you react when you are upset?
Everyone deals with anger, hurt, disappointment, and sadness in different ways. Make sure the person you marry handles their emotions in a healthy way and will not dump their negativity on you.
4. Are you a spender or a saver?
Take care to marry someone who deals with money in a way that you respect. Don’t assume that your future spouse will adopt your way. Double check how they live life now and inquire about their habits.
5. Which scholars do you follow and why?
Religion should be what brings you together, not what tears you apart. Marry someone who learns from similar scholars and holds views that you can tolerate. Make a goal to unite as spiritual partners in your marriage.
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